Lindsey Kuper (lindseykuper) wrote,
Lindsey Kuper

Nightclubs and double standards

The ever-increasing Grinnell contingent went dancing last night. Crush was okay, but there were only about two people dancing who weren't us, and the music was kind of hit-and-miss, so we left early. At Bar Code, there were more people dancing, and the music was better (if you like hip-hop, which I do).

One thing really bothered me, though. At Bar Code they had a platform where anyone could go up and dance above the main floor -- or, at least, that's what we thought. eliciel got up and danced for a while, to the general approval of all. (She sometimes talks about not being able to dance "normally" because of her specific training in belly dance, but I think that she just says that to make the rest of us feel better, because if anything, it helps her. Like, a whole lot.) But when dan_o_m tried it, a bouncer hurried over and yelled at him to get down (which he did). Now, I can understand why they do that -- they don't want people to see a man on the platform, assume that it must be a gay bar, and leave; and they don't want women who otherwise would go up on the platform to be intimidated by the presence of a man there. I understand it, but I don't have to like it. Is there such a thing as a gender-neutral club (suggestions, please)? Or am I limited to going to places that have explicitly declared themselves gay-friendly, just because I believe that anyone who wants to dance on the platform should damn well be able to dance on the platform? That's stupid. Plus, the bartender shortchanged me, and then someone impaled my toe on her stiletto. We might be boycotting Bar Code for a while.


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