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Women in tech, women near tech, sitting alone in dark rooms, and girlfriends of geeks [Mar. 31st, 2011|09:19 pm]
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After reading today's Geek Feminism post by guest blogger Cate about girlfriends of geeks, I'm of two minds. I already commented on the article, but while I wait for my comment to make it out of moderation, I realize that I have enough to say on the topic that it deserves its own treatment here.

I agree with the point being made by Cate in the sense that I'm sick and tired of media and events in which women who are held up as examples of "women in technology" actually turn out to be women near technology, as Kirrily Robert's earlier post on the same blog so aptly put it. Here's a recent example. I was hopeful when I read the text of this post by Jolie O'Dell about women technologists at Facebook, but disappointed when I watched the video that went along with the article. The video starts out in a promising way by saying, "A recent Facebook Developer Garage saw much more participation [than past such events had seen] from women engineers. We decided to talk to some of the women in attendance and ask about their opinions and experiences working in this male-dominated industry." Okay, sounds good! But the promising introduction is followed by interviews with three women who are not engineers. They are, in order, a marketing executive, an engineering manager, and a product manager and strategist.

This is not to say that these women don't kick ass at the jobs that they do. But the video makes it sound like we're about to hear from women engineers specifically, then presents us with women who aren't. I can think of at least two reasons why this is problematic:

  • First, it makes it look like there were no actual female engineers to be found. Was that actually the case at this Facebook Developer Garage thing? I hope not, but that's sure how the video makes it appear. The first woman interviewed in the video even starts right off the bat with, "I'm not a coder myself..." Again, it's not that there's anything wrong with what she does instead. But there is something wrong with actual female engineers like me being made to feel invisible.
  • Second, if people become used to hearing "Here are some women engineers!" and then seeing non-engineers, then later on, when an actual woman engineer does show up, who's going to believe that she really is one? When people have been lied to enough times, they won't believe you even when you're telling the truth. When I tell someone that I'm helping implement a new programming language, I really, really don't want to have to worry about whether they'll believe me.

The second woman interviewed, the engineering manager, says something I'm ambivalent about: "You can absolutely find very hard-core women systems developers who sit in a dark room and write code all day." Well, it's great that hard-core women systems developers exist, but instead of just talking about them, why not interview them? Moreover, I think it does a disservice, both to would-be women programmers and to the profession of programming itself, to propagate the misinformation that sitting in a dark room and writing code all day is actually what good programming jobs are like. My colleagues on the Rust team and I very rarely spend our time on the job sitting alone in dark rooms. We're talking to each other, unreservedly and passionately, all day long, in person and on IRC. We could never get anything done if we didn't! (Also, the office is pretty well-lit.)

So I'm happy to see Cate's Geek Feminism post in some ways, because it provides a counterpoint to what I see in Jolie O'Dell's video and other media like it. But I'm disappointed by the part of Cate's post that suggests that being a computer science geek is the only legitimate way to be a geek. That discounts all the other flavors of geekery: being an architecture geek, being a model railway geek, being a letterpress geek, being a lute-tablature-of-the-15th-century geek, or being an audiophile geek, to name a few. Have you ever heard two women talking about a knitting pattern and not been able to follow all the intricate jargon? They're geeks. Know a woman who knows all the ins and outs of constitutional law? She's a geek. A woman who who can explain exactly how ranked-choice voting will affect the outcome of an election? Geek to the core. And, yes, you can also be a marketing geek or a management geek or a product strategy geek, and none of these geeks somehow magically become less geeky by happening to date a computer geek. As the girlfriend of a computer geek, I can tell you how patently absurd that notion is.

There are other parts of Cate's post that I take issue with, as well. I'll point out one quotation in particular: "[A] woman who can’t actually write a line of code has little credibility presenting on that topic to a crowd of people who do." The "on that topic" part of the quotation makes it pass muster, just barely, but I dislike the implication that programmers can't learn anything from non-programmers (as if programmers are somehow better), and I would go so far as to suggest that programmers can even learn something about programming from non-programmers, because to say otherwise is to implicitly deny the legitimacy of all the other forms of geekery. If programmers don't allow all the collected wisdom of non-programmers to inform what we do, we're doomed to irrelevance.

If I had an elegant way to sum up the two sides of my reaction to Cate's post, I'd put it here. But the best I can do is an awkward conjunction: I am a programmer, and I'm not any better than you. Please, world, acknowledge me that way!

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[User Picture]From: catechism
2011-04-01 04:48 am (UTC)

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As someone who programs but is not really much of a programmer, it has always been my feeling that programmers who think they can't learn from non-programmers are, in fact, not very good programmers. To me, programming is problem solving, and some problems require different approaches. Many programmers attack problems in the same way -- like, I don't have to tell YOU that it's a creative endeavor, but whenever I start waxing poetic about the creativity or the elegance of a few lines of code, non-programmers look at me like I've lost my mind. But it IS, and I just feel like any creative endeavor is a product of its influences, and the more (and better) your influences are, the better and more creative you're going to be at whatever it is you've undertaken. And, as we know, diversity >> not-diversity; that applies just as much to knowledge and influence as it does to race and gender and orientation.

Anyway, I think that post overreached. I think the end-game message was solid: stop saying you've got more women engineers and then talking about people who aren't engineers. But... yeah. Something about the tone felt off to me, too.
[User Picture]From: lindseykuper
2011-04-01 05:18 am (UTC)

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Yes. All of this.

stop saying you've got more women engineers and then talking about people who aren't engineers.

Yeah. If it had stopped there, I'd be happy.
[User Picture]From: catechism
2011-04-01 05:30 am (UTC)

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You know, one other thing. Not necessarily from that post, but just more in general. I get so, so twitchy whenever "the girlfriend" is brought up, because it's so often automatically dismissive. It's incredibly loaded, and there are a million assumptions built into that term. And I feel like... women go to sci/tech conferences, or join a band, or do something else that has typically been male-dominated, and so many times the automatic assumption is, oh, she's just a girlfriend, she doesn't count, she can't possibly be interesting or worthwhile. Fuck you, you know? That's something we fight against, that assumption.

... ugh, I was going somewhere with this, but now I'm just cranky. I think where I was headed was that there is a line to walk between assuming that the girlfriend of a boygeek is a geek herself, and dismissing her outright with a snide, "oh, the girlfriend." Neither of those things is the right thing.

(Sorry, typo. You know how I feel about that!)
[User Picture]From: lindseykuper
2011-04-01 05:50 am (UTC)

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Agreed. If the post had just used the words "woman near tech" instead of "girlfriend" every place it appeared, it would be so much better. Honestly, I'm not sure that the post brings anything new to the discussion that Kirrily's original "women near tech" post (and the Dori Smith post that inspired it) didn't have. I can't say enough good things about Kirrily's post. It's the one that I direct people to when I'm trying to explain why I like Geek Feminism.
[User Picture]From: _tove
2011-04-02 01:44 am (UTC)

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[Augh I started to respond to this on a tiny idevice and thought I maybe posted something by accident?]

Ugh ugh the "girlfriend" thing. I'm not a computer-type geek (I am an architecture geek and a letterpress geek!) but one of my angriest memories from high school was that the robotics club advisor refused to take me seriously because I happened to be dating another club member. It certainly wasn't possible that we were dating because we met in the club or anything, nosiree. And yeah, I didn't know a lot about programming or mechanical engineering but 1) neither did most of the other members -- it was high school and 2) several of the other girls would later go on to engineering at MIT and were equally ignored/condescended to.

...man, now I'm cranky too. :P
[User Picture]From: lindseykuper
2011-04-02 02:24 am (UTC)

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It was you that I was thinking of for the architecture-geek part! I didn't know you did letterpress, too. I don't think I actually know any model train geeks or constitutional law geeks (of any gender), but I had specific examples in mind for the rest: the audiophile geek is my sister, the knitting geeks are Beth linettasky and Megan tornadogrrrl, the voting systems geek is Ginny gawm, and the lute-tablature-of-the-15th-century geek was me in college.
[User Picture]From: _tove
2011-04-04 04:36 am (UTC)

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Ha, awww. Yeah, I have some experience with letterpress; I was a TA/lab assistant for a few semesters for the School of Design's letterpress lab, and I spent a summer sorting lead type back into type cases ("dismantling poems") there. But actually my biggest geekdom is clothing, though you wouldn't know it from the way I dress. :P
[User Picture]From: lindseykuper
2011-04-04 05:03 am (UTC)

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But actually my biggest geekdom is clothing, though you wouldn't know it from the way I dress.

Yeah, I knew that, but I was sort of lumping it under architecture.
[User Picture]From: lyceum_arabica
2011-04-04 01:10 am (UTC)

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Huh... My friends had a different interpretation of the 'girlfriend'. Many of the girls I know who got into table top rpg's (read D&D, pre-everquest) or got into messing around with computers (building them, doing arcane stuff with Linux)... They all first got introduced to the trade by a boyfriend. The basic understanding was that in high school these were all boy's things, and while girls still had cooties an interested girl needed a boy to champion her in order to get access to the social/informational channels (pre useful Internet). So the 'girlfriend' was seen as a girl who'd been vetted by one of the boys... She was certified to be geeky enough to join in.
[User Picture]From: sonetka
2011-04-01 08:25 am (UTC)

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Maybe we’re not standing in the spotlight because we’re actually getting shit done.

She sounds like a treat to hang out with. And yes, "the girlfriend" raised my hackles as well -- if a man had written that post, with that kind of terminology, he'd be getting absolutely reamed (not that all of her commenters were kind, but I mean it would be much, much worse). It's too bad, because I can see what she's trying to say and I think a good part of her tone may have come from defensiveness, but I was reading it and thinking "If women engineers are all like her, why would I WANT to join them?"

The expansion of the word geek is interesting -- I think it's followed an "autism"-like trajectory where what thirty years ago meant something fairly specific now means an intense interest in almost any given subject. But I have to admit I really wouldn't like to call myself a geek around, say, Andrew's officemates. I'd feel like I was trying to tag along, saying "me too!"

[User Picture]From: lindseykuper
2011-04-01 08:59 am (UTC)

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There actually is some truth to the women-in-tech-being-overcommitted thing. We get asked to be spokespeople a lot, which is nice sometimes, but it can get in the way of getting actual work done. As a matter of fact, I just had to turn down a request to be in a video myself -- it's something my department is putting together as a recruiting tool, but I can't be in it because I'm currently thousands of miles away, working! Yet it's really frustrating for me to have to turn it down, knowing that if I'm not there, women might be unrepresented or misrepresented in the video -- to the point where I wasted a lot of time trying to think of some reasonable way to participate remotely before realizing that that just wasn't going to fly.

I think of geekery as any intense interest that involves knowing a lot of arcana and minutiae. I always think of the Edgar Wallace quotation, "The intellectual is someone who has found something more interesting than sex." That's the sense in which I use the word. I don't think there would be anything "me too!"-ish about you using it, if you added whatever qualifiers are appropriate for your flavor of geekiness ("I'm a British royal family genealogy geek, so I'm a fan of Alison Weir's books", or what have you).
[User Picture]From: chrisamaphone
2011-04-01 01:56 pm (UTC)

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it's something my department is putting together as a recruiting tool, but I can't be in it because I'm currently thousands of miles away, working!

yeah -- an undergrad friend of mine is currently visiting IU as a prospective PL student, and i put him in contact with alex, but addition to thinking "it's too bad lindsey won't be around 'cause she's awesome", i also admit to having the thought "it's too bad lindsey won't be around 'cause she's a woman." (the friend is a guy, but i'd like to think *everyone* would react positively to a more gender-balanced research group.) but like, of course that's not more important than you being somewhere awesome doing real work, so i felt kind of bad for thinking it afterwards.
[User Picture]From: lindseykuper
2011-04-01 03:42 pm (UTC)

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I'm really irked about not being around IU for prospietimes, either. Someone from Grinnell (my undergrad school) was also just visiting as a prospective PL student last week, and when I found out about it after the fact, I fell all over myself to Plans-stalk him and spew enthusiasm at him. I hope it didn't do more harm than good!

Anyway, tell your friend to email me if he wants candid answers to any questions about IU. I'd honestly love to talk to him about it.
[User Picture]From: tim.dreamwidth.org
2011-04-01 07:40 pm (UTC)

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*And* it's sad that one person being out of town affects whether the research group looks gender-balanaced or not.

(In my department, I was able to say truthfully at one point that I shared a cube with 3/4 of the female Ph.D students in the entire department. Our cubes held six people each. And half the residents of my cube were guys.)
[User Picture]From: oniugnip
2011-04-01 08:39 pm (UTC)

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It's zacharyzsparks, in fact! We had dinner last night. He's a pretty hip cat.

I believe he's at PL wonks right now, and probably headed to Gamer's Guild later on.
[User Picture]From: sonetka
2011-04-01 05:40 pm (UTC)

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If someone said that to me, I'd be horrified, because Weir's books are so freaking sloppy! But I take your point :).
[User Picture]From: lindseykuper
2011-04-01 07:08 pm (UTC)

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See? See?! My point exactly! You are a geek! I don't know anything about her books; it's just the first stuff that happens to come up on Amazon. I was kind of hoping you'd have some sort of specific criticism, because the first stuff that comes up in a search for "programming" looks like worthless dreck to me, but only someone who's already a programmer would realize that; everyone else doesn't have enough domain knowledge to know the difference. A chicken-and-egg problem, that.
[User Picture]From: sonetka
2011-04-02 04:35 am (UTC)

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Oh, the rant I could write if had the stomach to pick up one of her productions again ... don't worry, it's highly unlikely I will :). But one of the things that drives me mad is that she has all of these online groupies and if you bring up her mistakes, sloppy reasoning, contradictions, complete lack of ability to contextualize and overconfidence, the response is always something along the lines of "But she makes it all come to life! She writes so well! Remember, she's writing for people who want history to be fun!" REAL HISTORY IS EVEN MORE FUN BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO DIG DEEPER AND LEARN MORE. REAL HISTORY IS MORE FUN BECAUSE PEOPLE LIVING FIVE HUNDRED YEARS AGO WERE NOT MODERN PEOPLE WITH PRETTY CLOTHES AND A FUNNY VOCABULARY. People who get their first education on the sixteenth century from her are being fed the historical equivalent of pig swill.

OK, maybe I am one after all. I'm sure you've had the same feeling about other books, so you'll understand my pain!
[User Picture]From: jamey1138
2011-04-01 11:08 am (UTC)

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It's a bit like Physics envy, innit?
[User Picture]From: gawm
2011-04-01 12:40 pm (UTC)

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Woman Geek Love WOO
[User Picture]From: _tove
2011-04-02 02:03 am (UTC)

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Hm, now that I actually read the article and not just your response to it (as in, I got my butt to a proper full-sized computer), I have to say that, yeah, my reaction to it is pretty strong. A large part of that is, ouch, my pride -- I take a similar view of what "geek" means, and I absolutely am one about a whole lot of topics that do not generally include code, and I also hang out with a whole lot of "real" geeks and do spend a lot of time feeling inferior to them (largely in terms of salary, sigh, but also just general prestige). So her post basically was just another bratty re-statement of something I already spend a lot of time thinking, so it's not surprising that my reaction is kind of angry.

That said, I absolutely agree with, actually, everything you're saying. It's completely infuriating that "women in tech" spots seem utterly incapable of securing actual women in tech. The ways that media can minimize and render invisible are many, subtle, and insidious.

P.S. Golldangit, another blog for my feminism/geek list. "Ouch, my productivity" as well.
[User Picture]From: chrisamaphone
2011-04-02 05:04 pm (UTC)

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lea you are not an inferior sort of geek! just fyi :P
[User Picture]From: lindseykuper
2011-04-02 05:44 pm (UTC)

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Yeah, this too, Lea. I actually think it's even more badass that you don't identify as a programmer and yet here you are, fearlessly making beautiful ActionScript minigames for your friends on a worse-is-better toolchain. In case it wasn't clear at the time, Alex and I were impressed as hell when we met you.
[User Picture]From: _tove
2011-04-04 04:42 am (UTC)

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Aw, thanks, you two!
[User Picture]From: cos
2011-04-02 02:40 am (UTC)

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Huh, this was strange for me, because I really haven't noticed a lot of this thing, of women who aren't doing a particular kind of computergeekery being presented as representing women doing that kind of computergeekery. I haven't gotten the impression that things like the video you describe happen a lot, nor can I call up much memory of encountering that myself. So why am I not seeing it? Is it something that happens a lot less in my computergeek field (sysadmin, not programmer)? Is it something I just don't notice or remember as much when I see it? Is it regional, or subcultural, in some distribution that exposes me to less of it?

Anyway, I read that whole post feeling that sort of puzzlement that comes from feeling how important this was to the writer while trying to search my worldview for evidence of it. It must be real or there wouldn't be people feeling so strongly about it, so where is it?
[User Picture]From: lindseykuper
2011-04-02 03:02 am (UTC)

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It seems to happen in particular at "women in technology" panel discussions at industry conferences. We also narrowly avoided it recently at my university's Women in Informatics and Computing group. We were trying to decide on who to bring in as a keynote speaker for a special event, and one of our steering committee members suggested Lindsay Manfredi, who is a self-described ghost blogger. She's someone that companies hire to write their blog posts for them, to drive traffic and customers to their websites. I think she's a good example of an entrepreneur, but I wanted our keynote speaker to be a technologist, so I protested. We ended up not having a keynote speaker and just having a few students speak instead, which was fine, but it was a shame considering that women technologists who could have given the talk do exist.

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[User Picture]From: winterkoninkje
2011-04-02 02:56 am (UTC)

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When reading her post I was a bit confused by the tone and message, what with being on the Geek Feminism blog and all. Only after re-reading it did I get what I think was the intended message. That's a pretty big demerit for any post, no matter the topic or blog.

As for responding to it, I don't have much that hasn't been said already. Though, in response to your post, I most certainly agree that coders would do good to learn from non-programmers. Alicia's devoutly a non-programmer, but she's a hardcore prepress geek, and I'm constantly amused by the direct correlations between her job and mine. Not metaphorical, direct yo. The process of maintaining any large technical enterprise is basically the same, no matter what the turtles look like on the bottom.
From: sherwooddotnu
2011-04-02 11:41 pm (UTC)

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I don't have a lot to add to this conversation. I doesn't consider myself a geek -- too much of a generalist -- and I don't work in tech. But thank you for talking about this, and thinking about it, and spurring others to think about women in the workplace as well.

I've experienced a number of revelations about women in my own profession lately. Even though women make up more than half or my colleagues, I see jarring sex-linked disparities in how they're treated and what opportunities they receive. Salaries, promotions, and behavior expectations are often meted out or calculated differently for women than for men. Most of the time, people don't even notice it's happening.

The challenges technical women face may be especially urgent and extreme, but the battle for fairness is being fought on many fronts. Witnessing these challenges, talking about them and advocating for change all can make a difference.

Also: Although my husband and many friends are geeks, I think the idea of being defined as "significant other of geek" is unbelievably lame. I'm an interesting person with lots of stuff going on in my life, so of course geeks want to know me. And I'm interested in smart, creative folks who make a difference in the world, so of course I want to know geeks, too. I'm sure some geeks are happy to live in isolated bubbles where they only talk to like-minded folks, but most that I've met have been happy to welcome other thinking people into their social spheres.
[User Picture]From: pmb
2011-04-03 03:01 am (UTC)

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Well put. Too many of these presentations say things like "women CAN be hard-core programmers" and then proceed to interview the graphic design staff. There are valuable tasks being done all around, but the bait-and-switch is particularly annoying in this context.
[User Picture]From: leadsynth
2011-04-18 08:43 pm (UTC)

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Well, it's great that hard-core women systems developers exist, but instead of just talking about them, why not interview them?

Because they're too busy gettin' shit done!
[User Picture]From: lindseykuper
2011-04-19 12:11 am (UTC)

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A crucial part (arguably the most important part) of getting shit done is talking to people about your shit. If nobody talked about their shit, far less shit would get done. This is why conferences exist. If you are too busy to talk to people about your shit, then your shit will become irrelevant.